My wife gets mad and loud at small things. She talks to her parents, and if they have any concern like we didn't visit them, etc. she starts arguing with me. The discussion gets very heated ruining everyone's mood. When I get loud she starts crying. She thinks whatever her parents tell is the truth, without logical discussion. What should I do? The only way to stop fights is keeping quiet and ignoring her. But at a point, my patience gets over. At a point, I regret marrying and start thinking of divorce. But I have a small kid, so I think of his future and take a step back. Please suggest something to fix it. TC: 1.15 cr
Learn to say “Yes, honey!”
Even for something that's obviously no? Will need some ninja training for sure 🥹🥷
you need to watch Jordan Peterson
1. Picking your fights is a valuable skill in life in general. 2. With the wife, use this daily: give her 15 minutes of time, where she has your undivided attention, and says whatever she wants, and you attentively listen. While you do it, repeat 2 things to yourself in the head: A. I have not done anything bad. B. I do not need to do anything. Do this daily.
Why for god's sake? We weren't ever trained for this. After all those logical leetcode questions do we have to go through this. Dealing with the human being vs wife, why are they so different. I thought it was just me, but after reading the replies it seems like a common problem.
This is your issue. Your leetcode score translates nothing to being a good partner.
Send her to therapy.
Is this AM? Unfortunately this behavior starts when she loses respect for you or there is no respect from the start. Communicate all your worries to her and if she understands then that’s fine and even after 2-3 tries if she’s behaving the same, then this marriage is gone beyond repair and you should decide next steps what makes sense.
Pick your battles. You don't have to fight them all. Only fight the ones where you are 100% (without the slightest doubt) right and very passionate about.
I had a similar experience with my wife. We ended up separating. Better do it sooner than later as its difficult to go through.
Do we need to be slaves? 🥲
Kinda yes confluent. I used to be like you but now, I have certain core principles and certain core areas of interest like financial management etc . Anything outside of this, I am like do whatever you want or what you say is correct. Much more peaceful, women are persistent and wear you down eventually so better to accept it