A beautiful Philippino woman I met recently who I was following in love with left me over having a small āmemberā. Iām a successful SWE to some degree. I met this Philippino girl who moved here on a tourist visa to work under the table jobs. I really started to fall in love with her before we had sex. I gained some weight recently, and I have a little bit of erectile dysfunction from it (or something else is going on). This causes my member to be a little soft and smaller. Maybe 4.5 inches total and itās kind of a weak erection. Anyways, after sex on Saturday night and Sunday morning she seemed happy. We had sex on Monday, and I went completely soft while having sex with her. She was furious. She said she hated my member, how soft it was, how small it was, etc. We made up and she said she didnāt want to have sex anymore then I agreed it was okay to wait a while. I criedā¦ All day while working remotely. Muting my mic and balling my eyes out. It took over 1 week to fully recover from this and not cry once a day. She soon called me after this on Wednesday after I asked her whatās wrong and why does it seem like she hates me now. She said she hates everything about me, my weight, my member, the way I have sex, everything. She left me. Then she asked me to ask her out again later and see if we could make things up. I asked her why would she even want to date me if she hates everything about me. She said āItās a waste of a body count.āā¦.. Man, that hurts. I called her back and said Iām done. She then goes crazy and calls me 3 times. 1st time asking if Iām sure I donāt want to date her later to see if we can work it out, I said no. 2nd time she asks if we should block each other, I said I donāt care. 3rd time she says āIām so grateful for the first time we met. You brought so much happiness into my life. Take careeeeeee. Byeeeee.ā After that we pretty much finalize the breakup over text 2 days later. Then she calls me 20 or 30 times and insulting me over text but still wanting to talk about things? Then yesterday I caved and called her back. She talked about how much she hates her under the table job, and she says how much it sucks to work that job. Other ranting. We talk for a while then she says sheāll call me back because something came up at work, but she never did. Today I saw her post something with her and some street looking guys getting food. Looks like sheās moved on. Iām very sad and depressed about my āsmall problemā. How do I overcome this? I will see the doctor very soon about my ED, but I am so depressed right now. That was so brutal of a breakup. Does anyone have any advice for me? Iām really not thinking straight. TC: $170k
Maybe donāt be chubby and go get your cardio up to improve erection? If I was a chick your stats sound very unappealing
Fux that supposed to mean!
Sorry to hear that. You should select better. As you saw, skin-deep beauty is just that: skin-deep. Along with an urologist/ andrologist, please also consider consulting a therapist on how to weed out women who do not deserve you. And do not give power to anyone to disrespect you this way again.
Fix your issues first, both physical and emotional. Women get offended when a man looses his erection with them, most donāt think itās you, they think that you think theyāre not hot/desirable and youāre not interested. So avoid that perception
What words did she actually use? I feel like sometimes when someone says something that we are insecure about, even mildly, our brains have a way of hearing something totally different.
Sheās mentioned it a few times. Hereās one example āI hate your dick. I hate how small it is. I hate how soft it is.ā
She seems like a horrible human being
Forget about it, move on, and never ever talk to this girl.
You need to build up your boundaries and assert yourself. Thereās no need to let a terrible person stomp on you. Sheās terrible, and there were early signs she was terrible and you ignored them. You should seek therapy and assertiveness training.
Find a normal woman next time. This one's off the rocker.
Bruh. Hit the gym hard.
On a more serious note, she seems crazy. Her communication, reactions etc are all absolutely bizarre. When you find a quality person, theyāll value you for what you bring. You go dig in the trash, this is what you get