ENM = My spouse and I have multiple romantic partners. We date, have relationships and sleep with others (and with each other). #ama #Ask Me Anything #ENM #Relationship EDIT: TC 695 EDIT 2: Interesting article about how common ENM is: https://slate.com/technology/2024/05/polyamory-nonmonogomy-dating-relationships-sex.html
Good luck to you. Was doing this and threesomes all the time. I thought we both loved it, Turns out it ruined our marriage and never saw it coming
Why did you decide to post this on blind?
Was bored with some content I read here and figured some might be interested in this. 🤷🏼♂️
No matter how attractive you are , the women will always have more choices , his wife has convinced him to pay for her lifestyle
Sure, women have more choices. But we both enjoy this setup and more importantly - it really made us reach a new emotional level of connection with each other. Neither one of us sees that as "not fair", although there are a lot of emotions to work through.
Please elaborate on new emotional level of connection with each other? I am genuinely curious
How about STI in this case ?
Quarterly testing. ALWAYS with a condom during penetrative sex. We don't really have a gazillion partners cause we don't have time for that, lol. So with a handful of partners a year, we're keeping it safe.
How attractive are the both of you
Well, hard to measure myself. I've asked past partners I've been with in the last year (silly, I know) and they said I was 8-8.5 out of 10. My wife is similar. I'm pretty fit, muscular, but have a lean body. About 5'11" tall (1.80m). Brown eyes. Not a model at all, but I look attractive.
I’m curious, what is your ethnicity?
Cuckactivities
*deep inhale* BAHAAHAHAHAHAHHAHAH HAHAHAHAHA
Envy?
Get a grip Uber. Cvck envy haha come on.
Who’s idea was this? Are you happy?
My wife's, sort of. I wrote more in the first comment. On most days, yes, I feel quite happy about this. Personally jealousy was (is) my main issue from the beginning. The thought of my wife sleeping with someone else drove me nuts, even though I was having more sex, more partners and dating more often than what she was. Took me a while to live in peace with that. I think the benefits for me far exceed the challenge. I have a lot of fun texting with, flirting with and dating others, and we try to weave the other relationships into our daily lives in ways that won't disrupt them. To be honest, it's not always smooth sailing. We both have feelings to work through, and occasionally we make adjustments. Our primary rule is clear - us before others. Our primary relationship (i.e. our marriage, home, kids) always comes before any other partner or relationship.
Are you sure you will never place someone else higher? Never say never
I’m not sure how you can call it ethical
If we both truly agree to it, why not? Nothing is done under the table. We talk a lot about this, we share what we feel comfortable sharing, and we make adjustments as we go. This isn't cheating. It's allowing each one of us to experience more without being locked down by what feels like a norm that people don't question. Having said that, it's not for everyone.
There is nothing ethical about this nonsense. It is degeneracy and mental insanity that will lead to total societal collapse.
How did you agree to this setup?
It's a long story, I'll keep it short. I always knew I had capacity for more people in my life, emotionally and physically. Got married, had kids, kept pushing down this feeling of "I want more but I'm not allowed to" and never really pursued it. A few years ago my wife confessed to having feelings for a colleague. Nothing happened between them. I was furious but at the same time that opened the door to a discussion that has been due for a long time. Lots of emotions surfaced, lots of nights spent discussing our individual needs and our needs as a couple. Took us about 12 months to frame what we each wanted and were willing to do. We wrote an agreement, with dos and don'ts, and finally started chatting with others, then dating, then having sex with others. Ultimately, this has brought us so much closer to each other. We're both very satisfied with our lives and our relationship with each other, probably more than ever before.
I love how you guys resolved it. A problem that seemed unsolvable yielded to a solution benefiting both. Chapeau to you both!