People pleaser, how to leave?
As the title states. Upsetting anyone makes me uncomfortable since childhood, to the point where I couldn't intentionally lose my carma in videogames. Now, I'm very unhappy in my current workplace, it was an extremely bad career choice. But a lot of my efforts still go into work, even though I realize there are no perspectives for me there, I can't let others down. Because of it, I'm always too distracted and tired to prep. Any tips on how to fix myself quickly and not give a shit about coworkers, who very obviously don't give a š ass about me?
YOE? Sooner or later you will learn itās all about business. You get money and they get your time.
More years than you expect. It's not that I don't realize that, it's that I can't stop feeling bad about not doing "the right thing".
I think you have too high standard for yourself, ie you most likely arenāt saying ānoā as often. Strongly recommend a book to you which I began reading recently: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/55782639-set-boundaries-find-peace There are a few super good takeaways in the first few pages already.
Despite what others on here may say, there's nothing wrong with being a people pleaser at work. No one likes working with a jerk so don't worry about what they think - you are doing the right thing so keep it up!
That's partly true, and this strategy sometimes gives good results. But I'm in a situation where I really want to leave, and for this I need to compromise the quality of my work. A day doesn't have enough hours in it, unfortunately.
From what I read OP is being too kind as a person and people are exploiting that. More importantly, OP is having a burnout, posing a great threat to longer term mental health which can be difficult to revert.
If you want to leave, just quit. Then you donāt have to worry about people pleasing. And then you can just focus full time on interview prep
As you age, you slowly stop giving a rats ass about things a little every day. Being a people pleaser is exhausting. Why do you think old people just do and say as they please? They stopped giving a shit a long time ago.
Wait until you get laid off despite all your hard work, dedication, and pleasing. You start care a lot less making your bosses rich when they canāt even give you stability.
and finally, the last group to fall in the market cycle, the redditors are coming home to reality, welcome brother
Did the nurse forget to feed you your medicine? Tf are you saying?