Whats wrong in this ???
I met someone online a year ago. We hit it off instantly and moved to messenger app. Due to distance we couldnt meet instantly. I live on west coast and she lives on east coast. Short series of events : - One year ago matched on dating app.. - Talked couple of months she did ask me to meet but I didnt go instantly was trying to know more about her in general before I made those travel plans. Later, we had fallout over petty issue and we stopped texting. - After 2 months I texted her again and she replied. This time I was serious and wanted to go out with her, ready to put all the efforts. But her attitude was different, all that spark was gone. I was getting bare minimum replies. She disappeared for weeks in between conversations. Barely getting past surface level conversations. I couldn’t ask her out because conversations were going no where. And we continued this way for 6 months. - last week I couldn’t take it anymore and said her goodbye against my will. Emotionally I still want to get back with her and mentally I had to stop accepting bare minimum behavior. Couldn’t decide what’s right or wrong. - I still want to date her and I feel something good can happen over here. Dont know what to do anymore. Just sad over stranger whom I never met. Was it wrong to ask little more before going to see her or I should have met her instantly? #dating
Everybody has different expectations but I wouldn’t date someone who is not ready to meet after talking for 2 months. Just makes you think the guy is not serious and just passing time. If cost was the issue, you could have made some trip plan to meet midway. But like I said everyone is different. You did what you thought was best, no point wondering
$300 bucks. To fly. You ever planning to become a man?
Money was never an issue. It was just the communication was off.
Has happened with me too, he just wouldn't spend money to fly though I offered to set him up in a good accomodation when he visited
Read my other comment
Move on bro. She got someone else
She probably lost interest due to lack of meeting and whatever the fight was over even if it was dumb (or especially if it was dumb). You sound somewhat immature from this post and we don’t know the exact reason why she’s lost interest but I do think it has to do with how she envisioned a future with you looking.
Time to move on.
It's very easy to lose interest if you see the other party isn't that excited and eager as well. It is a seesaw, and takes a bit of intuition to manage where the balance is. There is nothing wrong with being fully honest and saying things as is: tell her how you feel about her and your relationship. Maybe you're a bigger planner and she's more spontaneous, maybe she couldn't feel your tone over texts. You can mention that you're planning to be in her area soon and want to get coffee or something.
I am gonna ask her out this week .. lets see :)
This is someone you’ve been TEXTING for a year? As in never even met her in person? And you said goodbye “against your will”, did someone force you? You sound extremely confused and therefore you were probably confusing so she lost interest. I suggest you go shower and try to meet women in person who live in your timezone. And get out of your victim mindset. Everything you say takes zero ownership of your own actions.
Thanks for perspective.