Ideal indian parents
I am 35, and in the last 10 years, I have started to realize all the things I missed in my childhood. Searching on blind I realized it's a very common theme with much of indian boomer parents. The majority are controlling and gaslighting and was physically abusive. My parents were emotionally unavailable as well. Like they never even hugged me atleast from what i can remember. Its so awkward if i were to ever hug them now. I do want to because i get envious when i see friends of mine do that with their parents. There were no family trips anywhere, no eat outs, or no birthday celebrations. The majority was just the religious stuff, poojas etc of which I got sick off after some point. Given my upbringing I am sometimes myself not that emotional. I feel that part is so dead in me. Until I got married, nobody told me they loved me. I want to understand from other Indians here. How were your parents growing up. Do ideal parents exist? [READ CAREFULLY] This is not about comparing Indian parents with western ones. Some of you snowflakes aren't able to comprehend that fact from this post and jumping to conclusions. Furthermore, some of you are resorting to personal attacks. You won't get my reply.
Sorry you had such an experience. Mine was the opposite. now my parents are in their 70s and I see no change in their love for me and their concern for my well being. The thought of losing them is dreadful for me.
Your parents are ideal as they are. Please dont think any less of them.
Yeah, same here.
Indian parents are the best lot out there. Majority of us not taking drugs and are adjusted individuals contributing thousands in taxes. So stop shitting on parents because little Johnny didn’t get a hug.
I want to understand if other fellow Indians had the same experience. If I cared about Western parents, I wouldn't be posting in Indian forum. Use your common sense.
You’re working at meta, have a stable family and complaining your parents might not be great. You use your own COMMON SENSE. You won a lottery by getting your current parents
I suppose you are from a middle classes family. This is very common in Indian families. They love us, but they dont know how to express in words. In fact they had similar experience in their childhood. They want us to change our generation and come out of hand to mouth situation. We weren't taught how to enjoy life. Let's learn to enjoy and teach to our children.
That's a very matured reply. Thanks for sharing.
This! It is very common for Indian middle class parents!
OP would rather have a family with separated parents, few sets of step moms and step dads, a mini football team sized group of brothers & sisters from other mothers, addiction problems from a young age, regular stays at rehabs, weekly support group meetings to cope with loneliness and shrink visits for deep emotional damage. What an exciting life that would be! Indian parents can never give you that
Come on, I am only asking if any fellow Indians had it better. I don't care about Westerners' upbringing. Why do Indians always have to compare with Westerners? We are 1.4B in population. We don't need other nations to compare with. There will be some Indians who had it better than most. Let's stick to them please.
What an imbecile you Roblox. The other side of the horizon of what OP has experienced isn't the BS that you just pulled over. Flash news! there are millions of families that express love and affection to kids/parents, go to restaurants and family trips, care and celebrate family events etc etc.
I bring up my kids just like you describe your parents and I don't see a problem. You come across like a wimp
Hey, giving opinion is great but not thrashing. Do you want your kids to grow up like a bully like you?
gghnnhj, what is the reason you had children in the first place?
Everybody’s path is unique and everyone’s path is less than ideal. There is no point in regretting your past or trying to find parallels of your path with others. Just do what you have to do now. If you focus and practice discipline, it’s not complicated.
You are comparing different cultures. In many cultures including many parts of India, affection is not expressed overtly. You need more mature thinking
Same here
Majority of children growing before 2000s had very similar childhood in India and maybe even rest of the world.
Same. You articulated it very well