The worst mistake I made was allowing my friends and family into my relationship. I've vented to them every single time my boyfriend had upset me or disrespected our relationship and now my family and friends do not like my boyfriend. They think he's the worst. All because I went to them when things were bad. Even though he has been doing his best to right his wrongs and make me feel validated. All I can say is keep them out because you may view your significant other in a positive light but your friends and family won't. What do you think?
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To share everything = lacking common sense.
I mean yes, you shouldn’t tell them every single thing. Find your boundaries. However, if your partner is constantly disrespecting or making you feel upset, then you should focus on that feeling. He’s doing his best after upsetting you. Ideally, he shouldn’t constantly upset you. Telling people about what he did isn’t wrong, him upsetting you is.
Probably because you exclusively share the bad stuff.
I found out my wife was doing that when I met her friends for the first time and they treated me bad. A first few times, it left me in a shock as I though I’m being super friendly to you and I didn’t even do anything wrong to you. Then over time, I realized she was doing that.
That’s poisoning the well, before the relationships got a chance to develop on their own. Very unfair
Why did you tell them? This is natural. Stop talking about your relationship.
Yeah we know. Sorry we didn’t share this with you earlier.
Since how long you had this problem ?
Very true, I let my current family (wife and kids) into my relationship with my gf and now none of them view me in positive light.
I true that.