I live in Phoenix with parents and grandmother. I love spending time with them and learning more about my parents and grandmother. But I also feel I’m wasting my twenties sometimes. What if I was in New York City spending my twenties with friends and getting laid. But every time I think about even moving out of my parents house I start feeling like I don’t want to miss out on their stories. Friends come and go but I’ll lose those stories about my family. But I also see my 20s fleeting away.
Why not just move out to a cool neighborhood iin Phoenix? It's not like the rest of the country is celibate compared to NYC. Hell, move to LA or Vegas.
This is option 3. But Phoenix is so expensive lately. If I’m paying $2000 rent might as well get an apartment in New York.
@OP 2k is not going to get you anything more than a windowsill in NYC 🤣
Why can’t you do both?
You can do 20s shit at 40s and even 60s, your parents and especially grandparents won’t be with your for so long.
Pls don’t give bad advice. This person can’t do the same 20s shit at 40s
In 10 years you'll remember nothing of your one night stands and drunk parties. Your time spent with your family however will always be with you.
Why is this a black and white either or? It's not like you move and never return. Travel back and forth, talk on the phone or video chat, etc. Do you even know you like NYC or is that something you think you -should- be doing? Can you find ways to have more fun in Phoenix? Having a good family who you can and enjoy spending time with is priceless. At the end of the day, no one can answer this for you. Do a bit of introspection.
You will still regret not spending more time with them no matter how much time you spend time with them. Move to NYC and enjoy your 20s and visit them on holidays.
You’ll always be able to go to New York, see friends, get laid, and travel. Parents and grandparents, they’re not around forever.
There is value and lessons in both. I would suggest to aim for the best of both. Go to NY and get that exposure. People rarely regret doing new things, they mainly regret not doing enough. But, family is priceless and precious. Visit them for a long weekend every 2 months. Try it out for 2 years. That's not a long time away from the family that I assume you've spent decades with. Sometimes you need to be away to know their value. "Absence makes the heart grow fonder". Scratch the "big city life" off your list. I guarantee you will grow as a person with more exposure. See the world. Get burnt. Develop scars. Reflect. See the spectrum of the human condition, as much of it as you can. You will need to cultivate empathy, apathy, and gratitude. Yes apathy too, if only to realize you're capable of it so it makes you more human. Grow. Then come back home wiser. You're not gonna regret going on a brief adventure. But, always come back home, to get grounded. You won't even realize what that word 'grounded' means until you drift off a little, and go away for a bit, and lose it. You'll develop so much respect for home and stability. This will help you later in life when things get tough with leading a family, as it invariably does. Grow mate. It only comes with new patterns subjected to your brain.
Get it! You hung out with them your entire life till this point. Time to focus on your own life. Got mistake guilt for regret.
I'd regret not posting your TC
You’ll leave Microsoft for Amex?